Frederick "Fred" Dove Harman Jr. of Callao, Va., and formerly of Fairfax, Va., passed away in Mechanicsville, Va., Nov. 2, 2012.
He was born Jan. 30, 1928, at Elkins, the son of Frederick D. Harman Sr. and Susie Blackwood Harman.
Preceding him in death were his sisters, Sarah I. Harman and Sue Harman Bergren; and his brother, John C. Harman.
The surviving members of his immediate family are younger brothers, Jacob D. Harman and William P. Harman; and nieces Eva Bergren Cronin, Pamela Bergren Crow and Rebecca Bergren Warwick. Fred also is survived by the love of his life, best friend and partner Anne Smith Harman, to whom he was married for 59 years; his son, Frederick W. Harman and wife, Shirley, of Tazewell, Va.; and daughter Sarah Harman and husband, Jerry Hopkins, of Callao, Va.
He was a proud graduate of Elkins High School and Davis & Elkins College and a lifetime member of the alumni associations of each. West Virginia has produced no son or daughter more proud of his heritage and home state.
A veteran of the United States Army, having served during the Korean War, Mr. Harman retired in 1984 after serving for more 30 years as a civilian personnel officer at the Naval Surface Weapons Laboratory in Dahlgren, Va., the Naval Ordinance Station in Indian Head, Md., the David Taylor Model Basin in Carderock, Md., and the Defense Mapping Agency in Glen Echo, Md. At his retirement, he received the Award for Meritorious Civilian Service.
After retiring, he and Anne embraced their time together and traveled the country, especially to Arizona, visiting relatives and friends, returning afterward to their home in Mosby Woods in the city of Fairfax. For many years, they made their winter home in Labelle, Fla., and had a vacation hideaway in Elkins.
To all who knew him, he was recognized as an honest and practical man. By nature, he was kind, patient, good natured and respectful of others. A man of deep convictions and abiding trust in the Lord, he showed his faith by the example he set in the way he lived. If he told you something, you could trust it to be true. He did not just make commitments, he kept them. His friends were friends for life, and he kept in touch with many. His many friends are his chosen family.
By the same token, he also would answer any question asked honestly and succinctly; you knew the answer. If you did not want the question answered, you should not have asked it.
Fred's and Anne's home has always been open to everyone, be they friends, family or new acquaintances. An invitation was seldom extended or needed because all were welcome - this is well known. There were many times when the house was filled with far more "family members" than just Harmans and this suited Fred; it reflected how he was raised. He was a man who embraced his life and the lives of others, and people were drawn to and followed his leadership because of this.
After his family, his family of friends and love of his hometown of Elkins, Fred was especially fond of the Mountain State Forest Festival, which he and Anne attended all of their lives; their many friends in Mosby Woods and Labelle Woods Resort; and each new day, which he embraced as a new chance to live.
If the measure of a man's life is his contributions to others, the company he has kept and the friends made, Fred was a success in every way. He was a devoted husband, father and friend, and everyone he touched is better for him having been a part of their lives.
A memorial service will be conducted Saturday, Dec. 1, at 11 a.m. at Henderson United Methodist Church, 72 Henderson Drive, Callao, VA 22335.
In lieu of flowers, Fred's family requests that donations in his honor and memory be made to the Northumberland Public Library, 7204 Northumberland Highway, Heathsville, VA 22473, or the Countryside Wesleyan Church, 17750 Palm Beach Boulevard, Alva, FL 33902.